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How to Heal a Broken Heart
It’s a special blend of wound care and falling back in love.
Getting your heart broken is the opposite of being in love. Love is the act of including something into your very being. When you love something, its identity becomes part of your identity, its needs become part of your needs, and its happiness becomes part of your happiness.
When we experience heartbreak, it feels like a part of ourselves has been unceremoniously ripped out. It can hurt as much as, say, someone ripping out your kidney might hurt (and leave a similar amount of lasting damage, if not healed properly).
There is a reason why surgeons we remove parts of the body delicately and methodically. There is a reason why we must accompany any surgery with a holistic healing of the entire organism. There is a reason why we take time, and often consult specialized help, to heal from the surgical removal of a part of our body. Removal of anything we depend on can be a painful, destructive and even fatal process when done incorrectly, without adequate care and a focus on comprehensive healing.
Imagine if, instead of a planned surgery with a skilled professional and an accompanying healing regimen, your kidney just got ripped out from your body and you were expected to go on functioning. There was no skilled extraction, no…
