I’m So Sick of Being Hard

When will it feel safe to be soft?

Photo by Adryan RA on Unsplash

To begin with, gender isn’t real. It’s real the way money is real — a thing we’ve constructed as a product of human agreement. “Gendered” energies are real, in the sense of intrinsic to nature— yin and yang, really nothing more than “open, receptive energy” and “forward-moving, penetrative energy.” All bodies, like all people, contain both.