You did the same to myself and many others; I was under the impression this was the game we were both consensual playing, but apparently you only consented for this to be one-sides. Your defensiveness is completely understandable — trauma sucks. It doesn’t take any psychoanalysis to understand that trauma sucks to experience and we’d want to warn off others from tangling with the same thing we think is the cause of our trauma.
I don’t write for you; it’s been apparent from the get go that you aren’t in a place to hear this, and that’s okay. I write for those who read this article and might think your truth is the only truth on the subject. You are welcome to ignore me if that helps you feel better.